Red flags of a codependent friendship
Is your friend picker broken?!?
Ahoy shitshows!
We often talk about codependency in romantic relationships, but what is just as common and not as widely discussed is codependency in friendships.
Here are some signs you may be in a codependent friendship…
One person in the friendship always needs to be rescued by the other.
You are your friend’s primary source of emotional support (or vice versa).
You feel depleted after you spend time with them or talk to them on the phone.
Your mood is dictated by their mood… when they’re upset, you’re upset.
You put your friend’s needs before your own.
One friend gets jealous if the other person gets close to someone else.
You feel like you have to always agree with them and can’t express your own opinions or ideas.
You’re anxious when you’re not in contact.
While it is totally normal to experience any of the above occasionally, if this is the status quo - it may be time to reconsider the dynamics of the friendship. Just sayin…
In this week’s episode of the podcast, I spoke with Michelle Farris, LMFT about a whole slue of topics including codependency in friendships. She discusses while the relationship with our parents in childhood forms our romantic relationship template, the relationship with our siblings in childhood often forms our friendship template.
You can listen to the episode here! I would love to hear any “a-ha’s” you had from the episode. And please share the episode with anyone you think may benefit.
Love you shitshows!
Andrea, Queen of the Shitshow
I cannot tell you how helpful this particular podcast really gave me some light on several relationships that I have, and have tragically ruined in the past. I am so grateful to continue to learn about how insane I am in some of my relationships. This podcast was really good. I listen to it twice and thank you thank you thank you always.